Feeling stuck?. Welcome to the club, it happens to all of us at some time or other. The thing is, how do we get unstuck, out of a rut and on with our lives?
First of all, how do we even know we are feeling stuck?.
Well, it usually starts with being “generally disinterested” in things. A feeling of “being trapped”.. not going anywhere, etc, etc. Hey, this happened to me a while back, I really did not know how to get out of it. I even started asking friends, how they got out of a “heavy funk”..
This is actually a sign. It's a sign that things need to change. You are more than likely bored with your life and you've lost direction. Hey, this is very common. Even the most dynamic of individuals find themselves doubting themselves and generally being disinterested in things..
Admitting to yourself, let alone friends and family can be difficult. No one wants to feel like a failure and the last thing you want to do is feel ashamed to be stuck. We all hate to confront our imperfections.
When you feel stuck we tend to experience frustration and disappointment on a daily basis. We feel stuck for all kinds of reasons. You may be lugging around a body that you're not happy with. Maybe your business is not going well. Maybe you not only feel stuck but you feel stupid too. After all, intelligent people never feel stuck, do they?..
Of course they do. No one is immune. I bet even if you asked top marketing coaches and mindset guru's, they would tell you they too get stuck sometime. So, if you are feeling upset or shameful about it. Stop…. it happens.
The first thing to get yourself out of a funk..
is, stop keeping it to yourself.. Whoaaaa… I know, this sounds counter intuitive. After all no one likes to hear people's problems, right?. Well, if you have some understanding close friends, or members of your family who truly love you… they will listen.
Feeling Stuck Is Nothing to Be Ashamed Of
Do you know what. I used to be in denial. I would never admit there was anything wrong with me.. Don't be like this, no one is an island. Human beings need other human beings..
Sometimes all it takes is a good laugh with a friend to start lifting the funk. Or have a chat with someone who's been in a funk and got out of it. No one stays stuck forever, especially if you talk to someone about it.
Sometimes, it pays to share. Yes, even that things are not working out. I know this whole “Law of Attraction” thing says that concentrating on your problems only brings more of them, and it's right, however there is nothing wrong with sharing a problem with a friend to get some ideas on how to get out of a rut..
Write it down..
This is what I do. I write down on a piece of paper (yes, paper, not typing on a computer), the brain pays more attention if you are physically writing it down. Write down how you feel, what are you stuck on and why do you think you're stuck (don't worry if you don't know, it will come)..
Now write down some possible solutions underneath. This gives your subconscious something to work on. The next thing is:
Go do something you don't normally do. Break the monotony. Go see a movie in the middle of the afternoon, go out to your favourite coffee place. Do anything that takes your mind off being stuck.
Tip: Remember, shame is often disguised as pride. Keeping a stiff upper lip about your problems is as bad as denying you have one. Problems are not disasters, they are just challenges, that's all they are. You can find a way around or through anything if you look hard enough.
The main thing here is not to stay “stuck”.
After writing down, how you feel, why you are stuck, you now need to make a written plan to get unstuck. But before you do. Write down the things you are good at. Write down the ways you have positively impacted others, write down your achievements.
It can be anything. Maybe you are a good parent, maybe in the past you were good at volleyball, hockey, martial arts, anything that you've done well. Now switch your thoughts from being “stuck” to thoughts of past achievements.
I got over my “funk” by simply treating it as a thoughtful period in which something had to change. In my case it was my online business. I had been doing the same thing for a long time and I needed to re look at what I was doing and do something different.
Human beings get bored if they keep doing the same old things. Some people see that as normal and never have a problem with it while others do see it as a problem.
Time to change..
Put on your favourite music track, get the brainwaves waving again, listen to audios of your favourite influencers. Anything to keep your mind off being stuck and start to make a plan.. keep writing until you have the plan down on paper, and then take action on it…
I hope this post has given you some value. If it has, please do share and leave a comment below. Let me know if you've been feeling “stuck” lately and how you got over it.
Peace and prosperity.